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Out From Under: Escaping the Burdens of Debt Stress
The worry, distraction and shame associated with debt can take an emotional and
physical toll on our health. Here’s a look at the confounding factors that make
debt such an oppressive source of stress, and some tips on how you can break
free.
By Catherine Guthrie |
March 2009 |
The Debt Effect
The Origins of Debt
Spirituality and Debt
Lower Your Debt Stress
5 Ways to Start Digging Out of Debt
Americans are wallowing in debt like never before. Counting all types of
debt, from mortgages to student loans to credit cards, three out of four of us
are in the red, according to the Federal Reserve’s 2004 Survey of Consumer
Finances. In the first quarter of 2008, average household consumer debt (not
including mortgages) amounted to more than $19,000, according to Federal Reserve
data. While the current economic crisis has tightened restrictions on lending
and led to a slight decrease in average personal debt load, falling home prices,
negative net worth and stagnant wages have made existing debts all the more
challenging to wrestle into submission. And most experts predict the current
recession will be protracted and harsh. The strain that debt puts on personal
finances is significant, but that’s not the whole story. What the headlines
rarely mention is the high toll debt exacts on our mental and physical
well-being. Two surveys last year hinted at the breadth of the problem. The
first, conducted by the American Psychological Association (APA), found that 75
percent of Americans are stressed about money. The second, by the Associated
Press–AOL, showed that people who were the most stressed about debt were also
more likely to be suffering from digestion problems, muscle tension, migraines,
severe anxiety and depression. “Debt really is trouble when it comes to
people’s financial and emotional lives,” says Jean Chatzky, financial editor of
NBC’s Today show, Oprah regular and bestselling author. “Debt is shameful. I try
to convince people that they are not their credit score, but that is not how we
were raised to see it.” None of this comes as a surprise to Kelly McGonigal,
PhD. A Stanford University health psychologist, McGonigal teaches
stress-management classes that include a focus on coping with debt. She sees an
undeniable link between debt stress and poor health. “Just thinking about losing
your job, losing your home — and mentally playing out those worst-case scenarios
— exacerbates stress and, therefore, physical problems,” she says. “Every time
you have a stressful thought, it moves you closer and closer to a disease state
or a pain state.” The good news: If we are willing to take a close look at
our debt, understand its underlying causes and secondary effects, and then shift
our spending habits, we can minimize not just our excess financial obligations,
but also the stress-related physical problems to which they give rise.
The Debt Effect
Of all the stressors in our lives — work, relationships,
lack of free time — angst over money and debt may be one of the most corrosive.
McGonigal says it is “one of the most toxic kinds of stress” because it can’t be
compartmentalized. Most people who have stress at work or at home can
find a healthy escape by channeling their energy into something they enjoy, she
explains. If work is stressful, for instance, some people take refuge in their
family life or enjoy a favorite pastime. “But when you have serious financial
worries, it affects your family, your home, your job and your ability to serve
your community,” she explains. “Eventually, debt stress taints whatever good you
have going on in your life.” That kind of invasive anxiety wreaks havoc on
our health in two ways. The first is a direct cause-and-effect mechanism. When
the body is stressed, the brain plunges into fight-or-flight mode. Thinking the
body needs extra resources to meet a physical challenge, the brain signals the
adrenal glands to release a hormonal brew consisting primarily of adrenaline and
cortisol. The adrenaline causes the heart to race, which elevates blood pressure
and boosts energy reserves. The cortisol preps muscles for bursts of speed by
telling the body to dump glucose (sugars) into the bloodstream. It also diverts
energy from the immune, digestive and reproductive systems — any bodily function
not essential to a quick escape. That’s fine, even useful, if the stressor
lasts a few minutes and helps you to escape from physical harm. But when the
body is trapped for days, weeks or even months in fight-or-flight mode,
adrenaline and cortisol are chronically elevated, a condition that suppresses
metabolism, promotes inflammation, and can cause or exacerbate a host of health
issues, ranging from heart disease to diabetes to infertility. “The physical
stress response evolved to help us handle short-term, life-threatening
challenges,” says McGonigal. “Depending on your mindset about debt, you can
literally be in a stress response 24 hours a day, which is incredibly
unhealthy.” And the ways people routinely deal with that stress can cause
more problems. “Stress triggers primitive coping strategies that offer an
immediate sense of security and abundance, as well as the promise of reward,”
McGonigal notes. Essentially, our brains go into emergency mode. That can
undermine our ability to think clearly, and it can also trigger cravings for
self-soothing comforts like chocolate chip cookies, alcohol or cigarettes —
anything that triggers the brain to release feel-good chemicals, such as
opioids, that temporarily interrupt the stress response. Equally damaging,
the scarcity mentality that often accompanies debt stress can cause people to
cut back on self-sustaining behaviors that are essential for emotional and
physical health, she says: “Things like spending time with friends, buying fresh
produce instead of processed foods, exercising and getting enough sleep — these
are true self-care actions, the things that sustain our well-being in the long
term as opposed to giving us a short-term comfort fix.”
The Origins of Debt
While all Americans are bombarded by the same cultural
messages about spending — bigger is better, diamonds are a girl’s best friend,
whoever dies with the most toys wins — not everyone concedes to a lifetime of
overspending and debt. What’s the difference between those who resist external
pressure and those who give in? That question sparked the curiosity of
Tahira Hira, PhD, a professor of personal finance and consumer economics at Iowa
State University in Ames, Iowa. Her conclusion? It comes down to what’s on the
inside. More often than not, she says, debt handcuffs those who suffer from low
self-esteem or a lack of accountability. Of all the negative emotions that
lead to overspending, low self-esteem may be the most influential. A study
published last August in the Journal of Consumer Research found that when people
feel powerless, they have strong desires to buy things that convey high status.
University of Chicago researchers asked student volunteers to describe a
situation in which they had power over another person or one in which someone
had power over them. Then the students were asked how much they would be willing
to pay for various high-status and low-status items. After thinking about times
when they felt powerless, participants were willing to spend more on high-status
items, like a silk tie, an executive pen or a fur coat, while ignoring
low-status items, like a sofa, a ballpoint pen or a clothes dryer. People
often try to determine their value in their own eyes and in the eyes of others
by spending money on expensive things, says Hira. “Even though it may seem that
we are doing these things to impress other people, what we are really trying to
do is impress ourselves, convince ourselves that we are OK.” In reality, though,
overspending only aggravates the self-esteem problem, generating shame, guilt
and hopelessness — and the desire to buy new things. McGonigal calls this
dynamic the “what-the-hell effect,” a phrase she borrows from diet researchers
who use it to describe why dieters who eat one prohibited item are then inclined
to scrap their diets entirely. She says it’s not unusual for people who are
working hard to manage their money to do the same thing: They slip up, make an
extraneous purchase, and then, instead of recognizing their mistake and
reinvigorating their commitment, they throw up their arms in disgust and toss
their entire budget out the window. “We are always monitoring our goals and
how well we are meeting them,” says McGonigal. “If we notice we’ve done
something inconsistent with our goals, we feel bad, and we tend to say ‘I
already feel bad about myself, so why don’t I just go ahead and spend even
more?’” And then there’s the fact that everyone else has lots of cool
stuff. Or at least that’s the impression we get from the luxurious lifestyles
portrayed on TV every night. If they’re living the high life, after all, why
can’t we? “People are no longer trying to keep up with their neighbors, they
are trying to keep up with the highest level of luxury they see on television,”
says McGonigal. Today’s abundance of home shows, garden shows and reality
shows makes extravagant lifestyles seem like they should be within everyone’s
reach, she adds. “That sense that you don’t have what you deserve is toxic and
can invade every aspect of your life.”
Spirituality and Debt
While it’s important to understand the psychological
roots of debt, some experts say people will never be free unless they explore
debt’s spiritual side — the unconscious part of us that feeds off wanting,
buying, owning, paying — and, yes, even owing. “What keeps us caught in the
debt-spend cycle is our unwillingness to look honestly and openly at why we
are behaving the way we do with money,” says financial planner Brent Kessel,
author of It’s Not About the Money (HarperOne, 2008). The first step, says
Kessel, is to identify the inner void that leads to spending. He points out that
everyone has moments in life when they feel sad, empty and deflated, and many of
us react to those moments by spending. “Madison Avenue tells us that if we buy
the right things, we won’t ever feel despair or sadness,” he explains. “The mind
latches onto shopping and then associates that with what makes you happy.”
To overcome our initial reflex to shop when difficult emotions surface,
Kessel suggests that we just try to observe our thoughts: What are we thinking
and feeling in that moment? How do those feelings contribute to the urge to
spend? From there, he says, we must identify our feelings (longing, envy,
loneliness, resentment, etc.) and then, instead of squelching them, acknowledge
and accept them. “The craving mind is like a 3-year-old,” he says. “It’s often
angry, frustrated, and it wants what it wants. The goal is not to avoid those
feelings, but to be relaxed and open to them. If you can make it to the other
side of those feelings, there is a huge amount of self-love waiting for
you.” Perhaps the most essential reframing opportunity we have around our
debt, says Kessel, is to see it as a powerful impetus for change. “Debt is a
tangible bell of awakening,” he says. “Instead of trying to get around it, go
right into the heart of it, feel those feelings fully, and ask them what they
are here to teach you.” Debt’s lessons may not be comfortable, but they point
the way to a better life, one as rich in emotional satisfaction as it is in
financial abundance. Catherine Guthrie is a Bloomington, Ind.–based
writer.
Lower Your Debt Stress
If debt is stressing you out, here are
three ways to reframe the way you think about what you owe. Find at least one person you can be honest with about your debt. “Saying it
out loud — ‘I’m up to my eyeballs in debt’ — can be very powerful and help break
the shame cycle around debt,” says Denver psychologist Stephanie Smith. The
physical act of speaking can begin to alleviate anxiety, and friends can offer
new perspectives. “We only see the bleakest of futures; we don’t see our
positive options,“ she says. “Often when you talk to someone, they can shed some
light on the situation.” Choose your media influences carefully. If looking at pictures of fashionista
celebs makes you want to own couture you can’t afford, curtail your
fashion-magazine habit. If gadget catalogs are your weakness, get off those
mailing lists. If watching lap-of-luxury TV characters makes you feel
underprivileged, turn the channel — or turn off the TV entirely. “This stuff
gets stuck in your subconscious and it is going to influence your emotions and
your behavior even if you tell yourself it won’t,” says Stanford University
health psychologist Kelly McGonigal. “Start to pay attention to that low-level
twinge you feel when you see something you want,” she says. “By simply noting
how you’re feeling, you can start to withdraw from the cycle of ‘I see,
therefore I want.’” Start saving. As soon as debt-laden people make a little money, they usually
scramble to pay off bills, says Brent Kessel, a financial planner and author of
It’s Not About the Money (HarperOne, 2008). So they never experience a feeling
of abundance or the pleasure of being rewarded for hard work. Instead, they are
always in the red, which makes them vulnerable to falling back into old habits
of self-soothing by shopping. Kessel suggests opening a savings account and
putting away a few dollars every week. “It doesn’t take much to help shift your
mentality away from deprivation to one of surplus.”
5 Ways to Start Digging Out of Debt
Ready to be debt-free? Here are five ways to get started. Operate on a cash-only system. Set a budget for your weekly expenses, such as
groceries and toiletries, and withdraw that amount of cash from the bank each
week. Then spend only what you have in hand. “If you don’t have the cash, you
don’t buy it,” says Stephanie Smith, a psychologist in Denver, Colo., who
specializes in debt counseling. “We’ve become so accustomed to credit cards,
we’ve lost all perspective of what cash can buy and of what we can and cannot
afford.” Drive a wedge between looking and buying. To help curb impulse shopping, make
a list of things you want to buy, then wait, says Kelly McGonigal, PhD, a
Stanford University health psychologist. The act of putting the item on a list
gives you the warm fuzzies that come with the promise of reward, she says. “But,
two weeks later, you’ll be amazed at how much has fallen off the list because
you’re no longer under the spell of the product’s advertisement or fantasy.” Reduce your wants. Think of emails and catalogs from retailers as “want
generators,” says McGonigal. Contact these companies and ask to be removed from
their mailing lists, or subscribe to a service that will do it for you, such as
GreenDimes.com. Toss unsolicited coupons directly into the recycling bin. “When
you are trying to save money, nothing excites the brain more than the idea that
you are getting a bargain,” she says. “But, obviously, you’re not saving money
if you’re spending it — even if it sounds like a deal.” Don’t ignore debt. People don’t realize that the seed of the stress response
is rooted in the unknown, says McGonigal. So trying to keep stress at bay by not
opening the bills or balancing the checkbook is bound to fail. “Your mind will
keep trying to solve this problem, and the less information it has, the more
it’s going to worry,” she says. “That puts you in a never-ending stress response
and takes a huge toll on your health.” Establish a pay-off plan. Having a clear strategy for paying your debts
each month and knowing when you’ll be debt-free is great for peace of mind — and
motivation. For tools you can use to start your own step-by-step payback plan,
see the “Pay It Down” Web Extra! at the top right of this page. For great resources and tools to help you deal with your debt, check out the Web Extra! at the top right of this page.
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Out From Under: Escaping the Burdens of Debt Stress
The worry, distraction and shame associated with debt can take an emotional and
physical toll on our health. Here’s a look at the confounding factors that make
debt such an oppressive source of stress, and some tips on how you can break
free.
By Catherine Guthrie | Features, March 2009 |
The Debt Effect
The Origins of Debt
Spirituality and Debt
Lower Your Debt Stress
5 Ways to Start Digging Out of Debt
Americans are wallowing in debt like never before. Counting all types of
debt, from mortgages to student loans to credit cards, three out of four of us
are in the red, according to the Federal Reserve’s 2004 Survey of Consumer
Finances. In the first quarter of 2008, average household consumer debt (not
including mortgages) amounted to more than $19,000, according to Federal Reserve
data. While the current economic crisis has tightened restrictions on lending
and led to a slight decrease in average personal debt load, falling home prices,
negative net worth and stagnant wages have made existing debts all the more
challenging to wrestle into submission. And most experts predict the current
recession will be protracted and harsh. The strain that debt puts on personal
finances is significant, but that’s not the whole story. What the headlines
rarely mention is the high toll debt exacts on our mental and physical
well-being. Two surveys last year hinted at the breadth of the problem. The
first, conducted by the American Psychological Association (APA), found that 75
percent of Americans are stressed about money. The second, by the Associated
Press–AOL, showed that people who were the most stressed about debt were also
more likely to be suffering from digestion problems, muscle tension, migraines,
severe anxiety and depression. “Debt really is trouble when it comes to
people’s financial and emotional lives,” says Jean Chatzky, financial editor of
NBC’s Today show, Oprah regular and bestselling author. “Debt is shameful. I try
to convince people that they are not their credit score, but that is not how we
were raised to see it.” None of this comes as a surprise to Kelly McGonigal,
PhD. A Stanford University health psychologist, McGonigal teaches
stress-management classes that include a focus on coping with debt. She sees an
undeniable link between debt stress and poor health. “Just thinking about losing
your job, losing your home — and mentally playing out those worst-case scenarios
— exacerbates stress and, therefore, physical problems,” she says. “Every time
you have a stressful thought, it moves you closer and closer to a disease state
or a pain state.” The good news: If we are willing to take a close look at
our debt, understand its underlying causes and secondary effects, and then shift
our spending habits, we can minimize not just our excess financial obligations,
but also the stress-related physical problems to which they give rise.
The Debt Effect (Back to Top)
Of all the stressors in our lives — work, relationships,
lack of free time — angst over money and debt may be one of the most corrosive.
McGonigal says it is “one of the most toxic kinds of stress” because it can’t be
compartmentalized. Most people who have stress at work or at home can
find a healthy escape by channeling their energy into something they enjoy, she
explains. If work is stressful, for instance, some people take refuge in their
family life or enjoy a favorite pastime. “But when you have serious financial
worries, it affects your family, your home, your job and your ability to serve
your community,” she explains. “Eventually, debt stress taints whatever good you
have going on in your life.” That kind of invasive anxiety wreaks havoc on
our health in two ways. The first is a direct cause-and-effect mechanism. When
the body is stressed, the brain plunges into fight-or-flight mode. Thinking the
body needs extra resources to meet a physical challenge, the brain signals the
adrenal glands to release a hormonal brew consisting primarily of adrenaline and
cortisol. The adrenaline causes the heart to race, which elevates blood pressure
and boosts energy reserves. The cortisol preps muscles for bursts of speed by
telling the body to dump glucose (sugars) into the bloodstream. It also diverts
energy from the immune, digestive and reproductive systems — any bodily function
not essential to a quick escape. That’s fine, even useful, if the stressor
lasts a few minutes and helps you to escape from physical harm. But when the
body is trapped for days, weeks or even months in fight-or-flight mode,
adrenaline and cortisol are chronically elevated, a condition that suppresses
metabolism, promotes inflammation, and can cause or exacerbate a host of health
issues, ranging from heart disease to diabetes to infertility. “The physical
stress response evolved to help us handle short-term, life-threatening
challenges,” says McGonigal. “Depending on your mindset about debt, you can
literally be in a stress response 24 hours a day, which is incredibly
unhealthy.” And the ways people routinely deal with that stress can cause
more problems. “Stress triggers primitive coping strategies that offer an
immediate sense of security and abundance, as well as the promise of reward,”
McGonigal notes. Essentially, our brains go into emergency mode. That can
undermine our ability to think clearly, and it can also trigger cravings for
self-soothing comforts like chocolate chip cookies, alcohol or cigarettes —
anything that triggers the brain to release feel-good chemicals, such as
opioids, that temporarily interrupt the stress response. Equally damaging,
the scarcity mentality that often accompanies debt stress can cause people to
cut back on self-sustaining behaviors that are essential for emotional and
physical health, she says: “Things like spending time with friends, buying fresh
produce instead of processed foods, exercising and getting enough sleep — these
are true self-care actions, the things that sustain our well-being in the long
term as opposed to giving us a short-term comfort fix.”
The Origins of Debt (Back to Top)
While all Americans are bombarded by the same cultural
messages about spending — bigger is better, diamonds are a girl’s best friend,
whoever dies with the most toys wins — not everyone concedes to a lifetime of
overspending and debt. What’s the difference between those who resist external
pressure and those who give in? That question sparked the curiosity of
Tahira Hira, PhD, a professor of personal finance and consumer economics at Iowa
State University in Ames, Iowa. Her conclusion? It comes down to what’s on the
inside. More often than not, she says, debt handcuffs those who suffer from low
self-esteem or a lack of accountability. Of all the negative emotions that
lead to overspending, low self-esteem may be the most influential. A study
published last August in the Journal of Consumer Research found that when people
feel powerless, they have strong desires to buy things that convey high status.
University of Chicago researchers asked student volunteers to describe a
situation in which they had power over another person or one in which someone
had power over them. Then the students were asked how much they would be willing
to pay for various high-status and low-status items. After thinking about times
when they felt powerless, participants were willing to spend more on high-status
items, like a silk tie, an executive pen or a fur coat, while ignoring
low-status items, like a sofa, a ballpoint pen or a clothes dryer. People
often try to determine their value in their own eyes and in the eyes of others
by spending money on expensive things, says Hira. “Even though it may seem that
we are doing these things to impress other people, what we are really trying to
do is impress ourselves, convince ourselves that we are OK.” In reality, though,
overspending only aggravates the self-esteem problem, generating shame, guilt
and hopelessness — and the desire to buy new things. McGonigal calls this
dynamic the “what-the-hell effect,” a phrase she borrows from diet researchers
who use it to describe why dieters who eat one prohibited item are then inclined
to scrap their diets entirely. She says it’s not unusual for people who are
working hard to manage their money to do the same thing: They slip up, make an
extraneous purchase, and then, instead of recognizing their mistake and
reinvigorating their commitment, they throw up their arms in disgust and toss
their entire budget out the window. “We are always monitoring our goals and
how well we are meeting them,” says McGonigal. “If we notice we’ve done
something inconsistent with our goals, we feel bad, and we tend to say ‘I
already feel bad about myself, so why don’t I just go ahead and spend even
more?’” And then there’s the fact that everyone else has lots of cool
stuff. Or at least that’s the impression we get from the luxurious lifestyles
portrayed on TV every night. If they’re living the high life, after all, why
can’t we? “People are no longer trying to keep up with their neighbors, they
are trying to keep up with the highest level of luxury they see on television,”
says McGonigal. Today’s abundance of home shows, garden shows and reality
shows makes extravagant lifestyles seem like they should be within everyone’s
reach, she adds. “That sense that you don’t have what you deserve is toxic and
can invade every aspect of your life.”
Spirituality and Debt (Back to Top)
While it’s important to understand the psychological
roots of debt, some experts say people will never be free unless they explore
debt’s spiritual side — the unconscious part of us that feeds off wanting,
buying, owning, paying — and, yes, even owing. “What keeps us caught in the
debt-spend cycle is our unwillingness to look honestly and openly at why we
are behaving the way we do with money,” says financial planner Brent Kessel,
author of It’s Not About the Money (HarperOne, 2008). The first step, says
Kessel, is to identify the inner void that leads to spending. He points out that
everyone has moments in life when they feel sad, empty and deflated, and many of
us react to those moments by spending. “Madison Avenue tells us that if we buy
the right things, we won’t ever feel despair or sadness,” he explains. “The mind
latches onto shopping and then associates that with what makes you happy.”
To overcome our initial reflex to shop when difficult emotions surface,
Kessel suggests that we just try to observe our thoughts: What are we thinking
and feeling in that moment? How do those feelings contribute to the urge to
spend? From there, he says, we must identify our feelings (longing, envy,
loneliness, resentment, etc.) and then, instead of squelching them, acknowledge
and accept them. “The craving mind is like a 3-year-old,” he says. “It’s often
angry, frustrated, and it wants what it wants. The goal is not to avoid those
feelings, but to be relaxed and open to them. If you can make it to the other
side of those feelings, there is a huge amount of self-love waiting for
you.” Perhaps the most essential reframing opportunity we have around our
debt, says Kessel, is to see it as a powerful impetus for change. “Debt is a
tangible bell of awakening,” he says. “Instead of trying to get around it, go
right into the heart of it, feel those feelings fully, and ask them what they
are here to teach you.” Debt’s lessons may not be comfortable, but they point
the way to a better life, one as rich in emotional satisfaction as it is in
financial abundance. Catherine Guthrie is a Bloomington, Ind.–based
writer.
Lower Your Debt Stress (Back to Top)
If debt is stressing you out, here are
three ways to reframe the way you think about what you owe. Find at least one person you can be honest with about your debt. “Saying it
out loud — ‘I’m up to my eyeballs in debt’ — can be very powerful and help break
the shame cycle around debt,” says Denver psychologist Stephanie Smith. The
physical act of speaking can begin to alleviate anxiety, and friends can offer
new perspectives. “We only see the bleakest of futures; we don’t see our
positive options,“ she says. “Often when you talk to someone, they can shed some
light on the situation.” Choose your media influences carefully. If looking at pictures of fashionista
celebs makes you want to own couture you can’t afford, curtail your
fashion-magazine habit. If gadget catalogs are your weakness, get off those
mailing lists. If watching lap-of-luxury TV characters makes you feel
underprivileged, turn the channel — or turn off the TV entirely. “This stuff
gets stuck in your subconscious and it is going to influence your emotions and
your behavior even if you tell yourself it won’t,” says Stanford University
health psychologist Kelly McGonigal. “Start to pay attention to that low-level
twinge you feel when you see something you want,” she says. “By simply noting
how you’re feeling, you can start to withdraw from the cycle of ‘I see,
therefore I want.’” Start saving. As soon as debt-laden people make a little money, they usually
scramble to pay off bills, says Brent Kessel, a financial planner and author of
It’s Not About the Money (HarperOne, 2008). So they never experience a feeling
of abundance or the pleasure of being rewarded for hard work. Instead, they are
always in the red, which makes them vulnerable to falling back into old habits
of self-soothing by shopping. Kessel suggests opening a savings account and
putting away a few dollars every week. “It doesn’t take much to help shift your
mentality away from deprivation to one of surplus.”
5 Ways to Start Digging Out of Debt (Back to Top)
Ready to be debt-free? Here are five ways to get started. Operate on a cash-only system. Set a budget for your weekly expenses, such as
groceries and toiletries, and withdraw that amount of cash from the bank each
week. Then spend only what you have in hand. “If you don’t have the cash, you
don’t buy it,” says Stephanie Smith, a psychologist in Denver, Colo., who
specializes in debt counseling. “We’ve become so accustomed to credit cards,
we’ve lost all perspective of what cash can buy and of what we can and cannot
afford.” Drive a wedge between looking and buying. To help curb impulse shopping, make
a list of things you want to buy, then wait, says Kelly McGonigal, PhD, a
Stanford University health psychologist. The act of putting the item on a list
gives you the warm fuzzies that come with the promise of reward, she says. “But,
two weeks later, you’ll be amazed at how much has fallen off the list because
you’re no longer under the spell of the product’s advertisement or fantasy.” Reduce your wants. Think of emails and catalogs from retailers as “want
generators,” says McGonigal. Contact these companies and ask to be removed from
their mailing lists, or subscribe to a service that will do it for you, such as
GreenDimes.com. Toss unsolicited coupons directly into the recycling bin. “When
you are trying to save money, nothing excites the brain more than the idea that
you are getting a bargain,” she says. “But, obviously, you’re not saving money
if you’re spending it — even if it sounds like a deal.” Don’t ignore debt. People don’t realize that the seed of the stress response
is rooted in the unknown, says McGonigal. So trying to keep stress at bay by not
opening the bills or balancing the checkbook is bound to fail. “Your mind will
keep trying to solve this problem, and the less information it has, the more
it’s going to worry,” she says. “That puts you in a never-ending stress response
and takes a huge toll on your health.” Establish a pay-off plan. Having a clear strategy for paying your debts
each month and knowing when you’ll be debt-free is great for peace of mind — and
motivation. For tools you can use to start your own step-by-step payback plan,
see the “Pay It Down” Web Extra! at the top right of this page. For great resources and tools to help you deal with your debt, check out the Web Extra! at the top right of this page.
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